One of the most embarrassing things that can happen is when a women brings out a sex toy, and her man has no idea what the odd looking thing is.

Such toys as BenWa balls, anal beads or even butt plugs can have them scratching their heads, wondering what to do with them or where to put them. BenWa balls, for example, usually look like a pair of silver balls which can also be used to exercise hands or fingers. They emit a gentle ringing sound which can be pleasant to hear. But they are also sex toys which are placed inside the vagina and are very effective for sexual stimulation.

Anal beads, on the other hand, are inserted into the anus and slowly pulled out at the moment of orgasm, thereby increasing the pleasure. There are many other sex toys which men are clueless about. When you have one and he is clearly unaware of what it does, you have to take him out of the dark.

The best thing to do is to have a quick lesson in Sex Education 101. Matter-of-factly tell him what it is, but instead of explaining what it does, use it either on yourself or on him.
A single lesson will be enough most of the time. He may even say something silly like, “I knew that all along.”

You can simply smile and enjoy the ride.

Previously, it had been taken for granted that all men masturbated and it was just one of those things, a fact of life that was spoken about in whispers. For women, however, the situation was different. Women who masturbated were considered sinners or perverts or worse. The unspoken law was that good women never, never masturbated. But it was ok for men to shake their snake and beat their meat.

Thank heaven that the AMA opened everyone’s eyes, although they’ve remained closed for the ultra-conservative sectors of society for the past four decades. But who cares about them, the ignorant minority? They may still think that the earth is flat.

The AMA didn’t say it outright back in ’72, but the implication was clear. It was not only all right for women to masturbate, but if they used toys like dildos and vibrators, well this was perfectly fine too.

After the breakthrough year, the sex toy manufacturing industry took off like a rocket. Upon reaching adulthood, women could do as they pleased with themselves, for as long as they did no harm. And since the AMA had said that masturbation was not only harmless but actually healthy, then having sex aids had to be a good thing.

Next year marks the 40^th anniversary of the historic AMA declaration. Maybe we should declare 2012 World Sex Toy Year? What do you think?

Locating the male g-spot is the first thing that you should do. It is quite easy to find, actually. The prostate gland is located just two inches inside the anal cavity. Just like when finding the female g-spot, you need to insert the finger up, in his anus in this case, and feel around for a bump the size of a chestnut. There are different types of finger strokes to stimulate the prostate gland, but the most popular one is the come-hither motion that is also used in teasing the female g-spot.

Before you go poking around his backdoor territory, you need to make sure he is totally okay with the idea. We all know how protective men can be when it comes to their backdoors. There are still lots of straight men who consider anal play as something strictly for gays. It may take some convincing for him to agree to have his anus touched, so you need to assure him that the exploration will be totally worth it.

To make the process easier for both of you, it’s best that you use sex toys in opening up his anal area. It is not a good idea to just shove something up his ass and expect him to like it. Start with something small, like butt plugs. Then once he gets used to the feeling of having something inside his anus, you can move on to bigger toys, like prostate massagers. Do not forget to lube up well before inserting any toy up his ass. Pain will discourage him from going further, so minimize pain and discomfort by easing the toy in as well as you can.

Tenga Flip

The label says that the Tenga Flip is for “Japanese-engineered for sensory overload, via strategically-placed, sumptuously textured pockets of sensation.” I didn’t find it worthy of the hundred dollars that I spent on it. I used the Tenga Flip for almost 40 minutes and I didn’t even have one climax, which is just plain sad. There is such a thing as too much, and I think the Tenga Flip is too much for me. I’d rather have my hundred dollars back.

Tenga Eggs

This is like the best twelve dollars you will ever spend on your life. The Tenga Egg is cheap, but the quality costs definitely more than twelve dollars. In case you have no idea how it works, the Tenga Egg has a masturbation sleeve inside, and the feel and quality is just like the Fleshlight. The inside of the egg has small ridges that feel awesomely good around your pecker. Speaking of which…

Fleshlight

Now considered as the hottest male sex toy on the planet, it is the male equivalent of the Rabbit vibrator. Using it is very simple, all you need is some lube and you’re ready to go. No need to read the instructions aside from the maintenance and cleaning tips. Taking care of this thing is easy as a breeze, since all you need is water and soap. Fleshlight is made of SuperSkin material, which makes the sleeve feel like the real thing. If you have porn star fantasies (who doesn’t?) then you can get yourself those Fleshlight orifices molded after the private bits of famous porn ladies. This sets you back around seventy dollars and definitely worth every precious penny.

We-Vibe

What do I hate more than the Tenga Flip? The We-Vibe, which costs almost a hundred dollars, is something I would rather throw in the dumpster. This toy is meant to be used with a partner and for its price, I expect it to be decent, if not great. Boy, was I disappointed. My woman exclaimed that using this thing is like having her pussy examined by a gynecologist. Enough said.

This is true for men as it is for women. Having a sense of humor is considered not only attractive, but can be downright sexy. Watching and listening to the good stand up comics tells you what people are laughing at these days.

In meeting someone of the opposite sex for the first time, about half of all men say that a woman’s smile is enough to get them interested. Women say pretty much the same thing. They find guys who smile and laugh a lot as attractive. They want to get to know such guys more. And they’re not looking for funny new friends either.

Having the ability to make a person smile and then laugh sends the message that you are someone they can get comfortable with. And if you want your budding relationship to get physical, then go out on dates where the two of you can have tons of fun.

You can tell him that you use sex toys, and if he gives you signals that say he approves, then you may be looking at someone who will most definitely have a special place in your life.

Before you know it, the two of you will be holding hands, then he will put his arms around your shoulders, while you can hold on to his hips. Cuddling comes next, followed by kissing. Soft and gentle at first, then torrid and passionate shortly thereafter.

You do know what happens next, don’t you? The two of you have become lovers. It may be a short fling, or it may last your lifetime. No need to look too far ahead because no one really knows what tomorrow brings. The important thing is that you are happy now. That’s all that counts, baby!

By all indications, the supplements do work, but how effective they are varies from person to person. With some, a single dose of a sex stimulant is enough to turn them into tigers and cougars in bed. Others, however, will only get a mild rush, which can still make for better sex but may fall below their expectations.

The reason for the seeming erratic effects of the supplements is that we are not all of the same age, weight, and general physical condition. They’re not too different from candy bars. With some, the sugar rush can boost performance for a short period. While for others, the effects last longer. And performance includes just about anything. Work, study, exercise, and of course sex.

If you want to try out a sex supplement, look at all the available products in the market. Ask around. And when you’ve finally decided on which one to buy, read the instructions! This may seem so basic, but a lot of consumers don’t really bother to read the small print.

If you take a supplement after sex when you should have taken it before, then of course it will have no effect. Or if you take it an hour before fucking when the instructions clearly say 10 minutes before, then expect to be disappointed.

But follow what the label says and you can expect a good night of sex to be better. Maybe even the best ever!

Some men take the song too literally, and they take this odd machismo all the way to the bedroom. We’re talking about men who insist on having sex only their way. They don’t care what you enjoy, they only want to get laid in a manner that suits them.

You may want to use sex toys, and he doesn’t. He may want you to give him blow jobs, but refuses to go down on you.

If you have such a partner, you can either live with his misplaced version of manhood, or you can tell him to go fuck himself. Or, you can take a third path, which is to open his eyes to the new world order. Tell him it’s the 21^st century already, in case he hasn’t noticed.

There is the possibility that he grew up in a culture where men consider women as second class citizens, or so helpless and weak that they need to be told what to do. Even in bed. This trait is still fairly common in many countries.

If your partner does not see you and treat you as his sexual equal, show him that he has a problem. Assert yourself in bed. Be aggressive and show him that you want to be the boss, at least 50 percent of the time. With a little bit of luck, he may yet realize the truth.

Frank Sinatra may have sung My Way, but his daughter Nancy had an even bigger hit. You know the one. These Boots Are Made for Walking. As her song goes, “one of these days these boots are gonna walk all over you…”

The right size

Most probably, you’ve heard a lot of people saying that bigger is better when it comes to sex toys, including realistic vaginas. But this is not really the case. The correct size of toy will depend on the preferences of the user. Most men prefer small and compact realistic vaginas because they are discreet and easier to use. You don’t want your wrist to get tired while in the middle of jacking off, do you? Bigger, heavier toys may work if you don’t plan to take your toy outside your room or if you’re alone in the house. As for the tunnel itself, it will depend on the size of your penis. There are realistic pussies that are made for different sizes. Using a realistic vagina with the wrong size can affect your pleasure and the health of your penis.

The right price

There’s no point paying more than 200 dollars for a toy when you can get something for less but equally effective. To make sure that you get a good quality toy, check on reviews first before you buy. Visit review sites and forums to be able to get objective reviews about realistic vaginas.

The right texture

There are realistic vaginas that offer different textures for the orifices. Choose from ribbed, dotted, and other textures to get just the perfect pleasure you seek. There are toys that offer different combinations of the textures, so make sure you research on them first.

The right materials

Now that most companies create phthalates-free toys, there’s no excuse to get toys made from harmful materials. Using these toys may affect your health in the long run. There are materials that provide realistic pleasure and contain safe, non-toxic materials that are durable and easy to clean.

So now we know. If blow jobs is what they like, blow jobs is what they can get from a wide variety of sex toys that does everything a mouth and tongue can. Now you know what to give your man for his next birthday. You can also treat him to a blow job yourself if you like, but the sex toys are ideal because men can’t seem to get enough of it.

You could try giving your man a blow job then switching to a blow job imitator. He won’t be able to tell the difference. All he knows is that he is getting the ride of his life.

It must be because a mouth and tongue can do things that no vagina or anus can. The sensations are not only different, they’re downright sensational.

The great thing about this kind of men’s sex toy is that they can go on and on and on. You know, like that energizer bunny. Some of them even vibrate, which drives men even crazier. Some don’t even need batteries because the sucking sensation is created by a small hand pump.

The blow job imitators are also called cock pleasers. Can’t think of a better name than that. They’re also called cock suckers, yet another name that fits the bill to a T.

Want to make your happy partner even happier? You know what to do. Get him a blow job imitator. He may be so happy with his new toy that he will gladly go down on you. Works both ways, doesn’t it?

One of the uses of a double dildo is when two women want to masturbate at the same time. They may be friends who are committed heterosexuals just having some dirty, wicked fun, or they can be lesbians doing what comes naturally. But what about a woman who wants to have solo sex?

Whatever her sexual orientation, a woman can have a session of great solo sex with a double dildo. For one, the sex toy affords her the opportunity to try anal sex if she’s never tried it before. She can penetrate her vagina first, followed by her anus, or vice versa. She can even try to penetrate both love holes at the same time.

Since double dildos are much longer than regular dildos, the woman can probe deeper inside her vagina. An ultra deep penetration is certain to be a new experience since it is unlikely that she has ever had a lover with a cock as long as a double dildo.

She can do the same deep probing of her anus, if she so desires.

If anal sex is not one of a woman’s favourites, she can go the opposite end. The length of the dildo is again an advantage as she can penetrate her vagina, and practice her cock sucking abilities at the same time.

Yet another trick she can try out with the double dildo is to bend it and see if her pussy can accommodate both heads at the same time. This is no different from being part of a threesome when two men try to fuck her at the same time. Using a double dildo for dual penetration is much easier because two men penetrating her at the same time takes some doing. The two men would have to position themselves just so for them to accomplish the trick.

But two men fucking the woman in the pussy and the ass at the same time is less difficult. This is why the double dildo can help her practice since she can easily do the pussy and ass penetration trick at the same time.

Finally, there’s the possibility of using the double dildo with her man. As she masturbates with one end, she can introduce him to anal sex. It will not take a lot of goading for a man to agree, especially when he sees her having an orgasmic good time while playing with herself with the double headed sex toy.

He may want her to dispense with the sex toy so that they can fuck each other, but watching her in a highly aroused state can be enough to get him into the spirit of things. All she has to say is, “You can fuck me later, but first I want you to fuck yourself in the ass with this.”

Even if the man has never had anal sex before, how can he say no? This is a type of foreplay he has not had before. He may enjoy it more than he expects.